Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Only a Broken Spirit

A couple of days ago I posted a photo of myself sporting my 24-hour Holter.  A Holter is essentially a 24-hour (sometimes longer) EKG, which monitors your heart rhythms.  The goal is to see if there are any abnormalities throughout a normal day, as sometimes when you have an EKG in a hospital or doctor’s office, everything may appear fine in that moment.




Why was I wearing one?  Good question.

Several months ago, actually near the end of last year, I began having heart palpitations.  I told myself, “You’re just having a panic attack, stay calm.”  However, after ever increasing regularity it felt like it was something more.  I am familiar with panic attacks.  My first one came decades ago while driving with me pulling over on the side of the highway to wait it out.  The next one happened while I was still in my late 20’s.  I owned several Subway franchises and worked constantly.  It never seemed to end.  One morning I was short of breath and couldn’t raise my arm above my head.  I drove myself to the Emergency Room.  After x-rays and tests the doctor came in, patted me on the back and said, “You just need to relax and take a vacation.”

“Yeah….let me get right on that.”

And here I am again, 20 years later.  

My sister is a doctor and we have talked about my symptoms in depth.  I have no history of heart disease in my family.  I work out and I’m not overweight.  My blood pressure is normal and to all outward appearances I am the poster woman of good health.  

The month before I left Rwanda the heart palpitations, tingling hands and fingers, dizziness and my feeling of “oh shit, I’m going to die in Rwanda” continued.  Maybe there was something more going on?

I arrived back in the US on a Thursday and met with an internal medicine doctor on Monday.  Another EKG, another normal, however, she referred me to a cardiologist.  

On May 2nd I saw a cardiologist.  As cardiologists go he was a hoot!  Pakistani man, probably in his late 60’s/early 70’s who couldn’t seem to wrap his head around why I was living in Rwanda and how I could still be living there after 7 years.  He just kept shaking his head and asking why?

I asked him, “Where are you from?”

“Pakistan.”

“Well there you go, you know what living in a third world country is like!” I laughed.

“That’s why I live in the US.”

Touché

He scheduled me for a stress test, an Echocardiogram and a 24 Hour Holter and fast tracked it all to make sure I could get everything done before I left.  The whole time he was working with the nurse to schedule it he kept laughing and telling everyone who was within earshot what I was doing in Rwanda.  

On Friday this past week I arrived at the Heart Center of Nevada for all my tests.  I had not had any anxiety, panic attacks or heart palpitations since leaving Rwanda.  I was beginning to feel like all of this was major overkill.  My sister simply reminded me it was best to get a clean bill of heart health so the next time I have a panic attack I could legitimately remind myself it wasn’t my heart but rather my brain which was having issues.

Last night I spoke with the nurse and she told me everything about my heart is fine and healthy.  I breathed a sigh of relief.  As I was about to hang up she told me, “Safe travels and please take care of yourself.”  Apparently everyone at Heart Center of Nevada seems to know my story.

Today I’m on the plane back.

Why all this anxiety?  

I read a quote the other day by Charles Bukowski, “Find what you love and let it kill you.”

I love what I do but I really do not want to die for it.  The sad thing is, things have changed for me.  After the November walkout the week prior to the Tour of Rwanda last year I haven’t been the same.  I do not trust most of the riders.  When you pour your heart and soul into making someone’s life better and they turn around after seven years and give you a gigantic FU one begins to question the work and the commitment.  Because mentally I haven’t dealt with the fallout from that event, my body has begun forcing me to.

Some day I will tell the whole story of those four days and the 2015 Tour of Rwanda but not now.  It felt like my therapist was about to cry when I told her everything.  I guess I didn’t realize how much those days had changed me.  She was the only one who gave me permission to be angry, sad and hurt.  It was real.  It did happen.  It had a consequence.  It felt like it literally broke my heart.  As it turns out, my heart is healthy but my spirit is not.

Logically I understand the issues I face with the riders.  They have had very little education.  They come from incredibly poor backgrounds and they are survivalists.  Survivalists survive by any means possible including biting the hand that feeds them.  It does not make it any easier.  A couple of days ago I received an email from our coach.  He is hearing rumblings again of discontent.  

I cannot do this anymore.  I have no patience for empathy.  I surely don’t have the heart for it.  So, how will I deal?  Next.

You don’t want this opportunity?  Next.  

There are probably 3 million young men and women in this country who do.  Next.  No emotion.  No attachment.  You make the choice.  I am finished with feeling stressed and anxious.  I am taking back MY life and my sanity.

Things are changing. I told my friend I was riding with the other day that I feel it.  I love Africa and I love the world of cycling.  I love seeing how far we can take these young men and women. I hope to still work in this industry doing what I love. I do not know what the next chapter holds but I do know I’m open to it.  I will consider other options.  

I will be open to life after Team Rwanda because I will not let it kill me.




5 comments:

  1. We love and support you whatever choices you make. You have given so much, lifted so many, and let yourself be spread so thin. It is time for you. God bless you!

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  2. Kim - thank you for posting. I have so enjoyed following your journey. I'm sorry for whatever you experienced, but I'm SO glad that you're not giving up on your dreams or your belief in others who would love for you to pour your heart into them. You are an inspiration, lady. Keep going.

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  3. Kim... when you pour your heart and soul into something, you expect others to do the same. Unfortunately that is not always the case. I understand where you are coming from because I've had this type of moment also. I pour every ounce of my being into what I do. It doesn't matter what it is, I give it 100 percent. Your heart is large and your journey is not ending. You will have other opportunities that will come out of this and you will be even stronger from it. I have always been inspired by your journey and I always will be. Keep the faith and keep going strong! Lisa-BLV

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  4. More of us need to pray more for you, and the other witnesses of the power of redemption and reconciliation, for we are ambassadors (2 Cor.5:17-20), and maybe (Ha! He says with guilt and wonder,"How!?") You need reinforcements. Remembering the apostle Paul's second letter to his disciple Timothy, "come before winter,..." Keep hope alive Kimberly, when "your kids" mature, they'll be much more able to express gratitude. It took 28 years, and a broken heart, before I was able to appreciate, not hate, my Mom! And the places, you, and Jock, and I, came from have to have been incomparable to your kids from Rwanda, Eritrea, and Ethiopia. God's blessings to you and the Team!

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  5. Kimberly, Thank you for sharing your heart! You are my hero! You are in my prayers for a large portion of GRACE. That the same GRACE that God afforded us could be passed on to the riders who have let you down. Amen.

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